Ignore Weaknesses. Double Down On Strengths.
There’s no sense striving for mediocrity in multiple categories. Figure out what you’re naturally good at and go all in.
…do not try to change yourself — it is unlikely to be successful. But work, and hard, to improve the way you perform. And try not to do work of any kind in a way you do not perform or perform poorly.
You know those people we’re all jealous of who can confidently pick something, say they are going to be awesome at it, and then calmly go and just be awesome at it?
This is their secret: They’re not good at everything but they know where their strengths lie and choose things that are a good fit.
(This) enables people to say to an opportunity, to an offer, to an assignment: “Yes, I’ll do that. But this is the way I should be doing it. This is the way it should be structured. This is the way my relationships should be. These are the kind of results you should expect from me, and in this time frame, because this is who I am.
Review the results and think about 3 things:
- What your strengths are.
- Under what conditions you perform well.
- What your values are.
- Happiness — I’ve noted the things that make me happy over time. I’ll schedule time to do them more often.
- Relationships – My good dates/great relationship moments all had these things in common so I’ll make those things deliberate from now on.
- Friendships — All my close friends have these things in common. I’ll use that to know who to spend time with.